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I know at this difficult time it’s not going to be easy, being forced to share the same isolation space when most of your day is spent away from each other. However, if there was ever a time to pull together it is now.
Bad Communication is the number one underlying issue we see as couple counsellors. As we start to unpack difficulties within the relationship from each other’s perspective, we will be able to identify the communication styles. Our first job is to introduce communication rules to ensure both parties are heard without interruption. When we do this, we often see relief and hope come to the surface as both are being heard without interruption.
Try not to argue, but if you do please take note of what is bothering you and keep it. If you have a heated exchange do not stop your partner from leaving the room.
Book recommendation for both to read this month is ‘Counselling for Toads’.
As couple counsellors, we love this book which is based on a model of counselling called ‘Trans Actual Analysis’. We all have a Parent, Child and an Adult active within us and it is so good for you to recognise how your states affect couple relationships. You will see yourself in the book and will perhaps become aware of your childish behaviour.
If you can’t make it to our Glasgow offices you can still receive our excellent counselling services. We offer a remote counselling service through Skype, Facetime, WhatsApp, VSEE, Zoom. We also offer counselling sessions by telephone. For more information please contact the Nightingale team on 0141 353 9373.
“My husband and I had been going round in circles for many years, I had always thought the problem was just with him! We found Florence at just the right time to save our marriage. She is highly professional, pulls no punches, makes you think hard about yourself and each other. She makes you laugh and cry, she is also there to help you translate what you feel and say, so your partner can understand! She truly is a Nightingale… thank you.”
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