Many young adults find it difficult to understand their feelings and emotions. They often feel frustrated and confused with adults, teachers, parents and siblings, and feel no one understands.
Parents often say, “I have no idea what is going on in my young adults’ life. Anytime I ask a question, they take my head off and accuse me of not listening, not understanding and being nosey. If I ask where they are going, or what time they will be home, I get a look that says you are driving me mad.” Don’t worry, by the law of averages they will return to you as they mature and figure out we are all flawed. Our children are far from perfect but we love every bone in their body unconditionally. As a parent, you might not always get it right, but you will be trying your best.
As our children grow into young adults, we really start to see them coming into their own. They form their own opinions, they often oppose you and they generally change as they leave their childhood behind and enter the adult world of responsibility and accountability. This can be an exciting time for them while having fun and experimenting with many aspects of adult life.
On the other hand, sometimes, this time of change can be very scary for the young adult. They may feel very alone and isolated as they sometimes feel they have no one around to listen to them and understand their challenges. Parents can often feel so worried and confused. “I only make things worse, nothing I say is right.” This is perhaps nature’s way of allowing our children to become independent from parents to allow them to separate.