Leaving a cosy relationship for the great unknown world of singledom is terrifying but if you’ve reached the inevitable conclusion that you can’t love this person anymore, you need to ‘fess up – and leave. Don’t prolong the agony. Breaking up with your partner might break their heart, but it’s better than sentencing them to a life with someone who can’t love them in a way that they deserve to be loved. Don’t look for permission to leave the relationship – they are not going to give you that – or start finding problems where there aren’t any. Remember that this is more about how you’re feeling than anything your partner has done, so be honest.
Counselling can be hugely beneficial in these situations, even if it’s just to help you acknowledge your feelings. Falling out of love with someone is a confusing time; you don’t want to play the baddie, but you don’t want to be stuck in a relationship with a partner you don’t think you’re in love with.
Counselling can also help a couple work through their couple circumstances with regards to children and family and how to manage the situation. Counselling will ask some powerful questions that can help a couple gain a better perspective of issues around the relationship which can sometimes shift the situation. It is only fair to the partner who wants the relationship to continue to be given the opportunity to share their side of the story and their experience of the relationship.
Edited work of Suzanne Elliott
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