Low Self Esteem
“The relationship you have with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have”
Jane Travis
- Do you feel you are never really considered?
- Do you do too much for other people?
- Are you treated as if you are not important?
- Seem to always get the brunt of bad behaviour?
- Never consider yourself
- Never get your needs met
- Sometimes feel abused
- Feel sorry for people behaving badly
- Strive for perfection
- Feel jealous
- Never admit you got it wrong
- Have a negative self-image
If you answer yes to any of the above, then it’s time to work on your relationship with yourself and increase your level of self esteem.
Self–esteem is how you think and feel about yourself. This usually dictates how you live your life, how you are treated by others and the type of couple relationship you are in or been in, as well as the decisions you make and how you view others.
In our materialistic world people continually compare themselves with those around them. This highlights our insecurities and often leads us to feel negative about ourselves and the way we live and act. We lose sight of the value of our own individuality and then feel inadequate and unsatisfied. Getting to really know yourself and appreciating your value will not only increase your self-esteem, it will encourage you to connect to your confident self.
Building confidence
Confident people are not brash or overpowering. They are usually calm and respectful of themselves and others. They are aware of their strengths and proud of their achievements. They can take ownership of their weaknesses without treating themselves in a harsh way. They are happy to embrace change and learn from others. When we lack confidence in ourselves, we are often defensive, fearful of rejection or criticism. This keeps us from being honest with ourselves and others. No one is perfect, and acceptance that we are not or ever will be perfect, allows us to embrace the qualities we have.
Assertiveness
When we increase our self-esteem and build our confidence, we can accept we have the right to make decisions that are right for us. Assertive behaviour enables us to act on our own best interests and to stand up for ourselves without undue anxiety. However, to find true assertiveness we need to be aware that to state our case or say no to an unreasonable request should never be delivered with aggression or passive aggression. Assertiveness is a true art that will ensure we keep the respect of others. We need to learn to deliver our message in a calm, honest and respectful way.
All our counsellors will work in a variety of ways and build a personal development programme for you. We will also use written exercises and directed reading to effect change. Working to improve your self-esteem takes time and effort. It requires courage and honesty to confront the things in yourself you don’t like, but in the long-term, it is a worthwhile task that will help you to build a better relationship with yourself based on compassion and respect for yourself. It will build your confidence and encourage you to be more assertive. When you do this work, all your relationships will change for the better. If you have not had great success with couple relationships in your life, then watch this space.
“You will only ever be treated the way you allow people to treat you. If you allow it then it is, you that needs to do the changing”
Florence Gray
“If you put a small value on yourself you can be rest assured the world will not raise your price”
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“I was in a state of emotional turmoil, but Florence provided a secure environment in which she carefully led me along a path of self-discovery, empowering me to understand the origin of and influences on my own character, behaviours and emotions. With Florence’s continued guidance I started to see more clearly the direct causes of the emotional turmoil, and how this was affecting all areas of my life.”
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