This can be sore if you did not want to split
Individual Relationship counselling can be beneficial for individuals recovering from a break-up which was once a close, couple relationship. The work can bring you a better understanding of why the relationship failed. Having a third-party perspective can sometimes help you see recurring patterns in failed relationships, prompting a change in attitudes towards yourself and others.
When we delve deeper during counselling into the dynamics of the relationship that has passed, you can perhaps start to see that the relationship wasn’t entirely good for you. Quite often you will have done too much, made your partner too much of a focus and not asked for your needs to be met. Working on your own in counselling can help you build a stronger relationship with yourself and guide you to ask different questions. Perhaps the person you were with just cannot commit to a relationship and is constantly looking for new situations to be excited about. If that is the case, they would not be able to sustain a relationship for any length of time.
When you are forced to accept the ending of a relationship, a grieving process will inevitably follow. As with any grieving process, there are stages to go through. With the support from your counsellor you can work through them and get to a place of acceptance quicker than trying to do this on your own.
During the recovery process there will be lots of learning for you. This will include directed reading, written exercises, and questionnaires which will all help to build your self-awareness. And the strength to move on.
The process of moving on will also be part of the work; action plans, goal setting, wish lists, new adventures, and certainly time to reflect on what you need to change to get the relationship you deserve.
Movement is the antidote.
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“In the end, we decided not to stay together, but we have become strong partners and have stayed on good terms throughout the separation, mainly because all the hate and hurt had already been dealt with. This has helped our children, our family and our friends come to terms with the situation, as saw that there was a maturity about the way we were able to deal with each other. Personally, I am amazed at how much we have both grown through the process and all because we now both feel we have been listened to and understood. Thank you, Florence.”
View Testimonials“In the end, we decided not to stay together, but we have become strong partners and have stayed on good terms throughout the separation, mainly because all the hate and hurt had already been dealt with. This has helped our children, our family and our friends come to terms with the situation, as saw that there was a maturity about the way we were able to deal with each other. Personally, I am amazed at how much we have both grown through the process and all because we now both feel we have been listened to and understood. Thank you, Florence.”
View TestimonialsA friend recommended Florence who I went to see after the end of my marriage was followed by another distressing family situation. Having stayed in a failed marriage for years dithering about what the best course of action was, I had seen a few therapists and councillors before. None of them offered the straight-talking practical help that Florence did. She helped me to look at the difficult issues in my life in ways I hadn’t before, and I benefit from her guidance, advice and good sense every day. Pre Florence-I was stuck in a deep rut, post Florence I am moving forward with a whole new set of emotional tools.
Below are a few of the issues we work with on a regular basis.
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