What Assertiveness Looks Like
What Assertiveness Looks Like Following on from our previous blog post, ‘Improving Your Assertiveness’, we wanted to illustrate what being ...Read more
Christmas should be a time of celebration and joy for couples as they prepare exchange gifts and celebrate together. However, the festive season can also mean plenty of stress that can push the strongest of couples to the brink! One of the most common arguments couples have is over the Christmas tree.
When people are busy with work and feeling a bit stressed, the last thing they want to do with their spare time is another chore. The thought of delving into the depths of the loft to get the Christmas tree down can fill some people with dread. Once you do get the Christmas tree down you find that the lights aren’t working, or they have been tangled up so badly you would need to be Houdini to undo them. Then, when you finally get the tree up and the lights on, and you think that you’re in the home straight, you catch a disapproving glance from your partner. You can feel your stress levels start to rise then they give you some ‘helpful advice’ and BOOM! Jack is out of the box and the argument has begun. An occasion that should be one of happiness and laughter ends in tears.
There are also the childhood memories of how you remember your Christmas tree looking when you were growing up. You can remember the years gone past when you and your family members used to decorate the tree together and the happiness it would bring. You believe that the Christmas tree you have with your partner should replicate the look and feeling of happiness that you once enjoyed, only to be told by your partner that they don’t like it or the way you decorate the Christmas tree is ‘tacky’. You can feel hurt and frustrated that things aren’t being done the way you have always known them to be. These feelings can bubble to the surface and, before you know it, you and your partner are having one almighty argument.
Some people are also more visually motivated (visual) than others and place greater emphasis on this when decorating their Christmas tree. They want their tree to look balanced, have all matching decorations, and follow a chosen colour scheme. The difficulty arises when their partner doesn’t share the same vision or are more invested in the memories a Christmas tree, or the decorations place upon it, hold (kinestetic). They don’t care if everything is matching or symmetrical because their tired-looking tree holds happy memories of past Christmases. They are more inclined to add Christmas decorations that younger members of their family have made from toilet roll holders and cotton wool. This can drive the visually aware person mad! They can see this as spoiling the overall aesthetic of the Christmas tree.
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