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Divorce / Seperation

If there are children involved, you will probably be considering co-parenting, make sure you respect your children's right to parents who are pleasant to each other.

Divorce / Separation

Sadly, couples sometimes decide to separate. If this is the case, counselling with a qualified couple counsellor can help to ease the transition.

Unpleasant, negative feelings emerge in response to situations of conflict. When couples are in conflict it is not only destructive to them personally, but it can be unpleasant for others around them, especially if there are children involved.

Divorce may be decided if conflict cannot be resolved. For others, there’s no conflict, just a feeling that they are no longer in love with their partner and want to be separated. If a third party is involved, there can be anger, resentment and pain. No matter what the issue is, if divorce or separation is inevitable, finding a way forward and remaining amicable is always the best way to progress for everyone involved.

Working with a couple counsellor will help you to:

  • How, what and when to tell the children that you are separating
  • Bring the relationship to a close and mourn the ending of the relationship
  • Express anger and resentment in a controlled environment away from your children now, as this will need to stop after the process concludes
  • Agree how and when to communicate about your children
  • Decide on how to answer your children’s questions
  • Decide on how much time you spend together with your children
  • Encourage harmony to ease the transition for you and your children

Mediation part of the transition

  • Discuss the arrangement for childcare
  • Formulate a plan of timings and duties, ideally to be emailed weekly
  • Living arrangements
  • Grandparents contact
  • School, homework and parent nights
  • Decide a set of boundaries agreed by both parties
  • Child maintenance
  • Third party contact
  • Divorce

“Easier said than done”, I expect you are thinking, however it can be done.

If there are children involved, you will probably be considering co-parenting, and the reality is that you will have to adopt a different relationship as parents to your children – You may have separated from each other, however, generally neither parent wants to separate from their children.

Children involved with separating parents are entitled to parents who can communicate sensibly without conflict, have their best interests at heart and feel no confusion or anguish about where they live and how much time they spend with each parent, until they are at an age when they can make their own decisions.

Nightingale couple counsellors often work with couples who want to separate. Divorce or separation counselling offers a chance to examine the relationship with less pressure on how to ‘fix’ it. The work is offered by experienced Nightingale couple counsellors only, as the dynamic of divorce or separation counselling differs from general, couple counselling. The process may give the couple a chance to ensure the negative feelings around divorce and separation are expressed and to make a plan of action designed to help bring the relationship to a close with dignity and without resentment.

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During counselling with Florence, we decided not to stay together, but we have become strong partners and have stayed good terms throughout the separation, mainly because all the hate and hurt had already been dealt with. This has helped our children, our family and our friends come to terms with the situation, as they seen that there was a maturity about the way we were able to deal with each other. Personally, I am amazed at how much we have both grown through the process and all because we now both feel we have been listened to and understood. Thank you, Florence.