Nightingale Counselling Parenting

Parents / Parenting

As well as bringing us joy, children can pose a challenge which can leave parents feeling exhausted, exasperated and desperate.

Parents / Parenting

Understanding your own legacy goes a long way to making a better one for our children.

Parenting is a lifelong journey, that’s for sure. Sometimes on the journey, your children break your heart, fill you with overwhelming love and just sometimes bring you to the point of despair – all in the same day!

Every parent works towards the same goal – to help nurture a child into a balanced, happy, loving young adult who is ready and equipped to take on the challenges of living and thriving in our complex, modern world. That’s all you need to do. Easy, right? Not on your life!

If you are a parent, I imagine you can already relate. However, to get it right or as near as you can, we sometimes need to get a little bit of help. We can find that our children occasionally create conflict within our couple relationship and when they are exposed to this conflict, it is not good for them. Let’s have a look at what we need to do to ensure our relationship stays on track and we can enjoy our children as they pass through many transitions with us.

Parenting issues can include

  • Baby shock
  • IVF
  • Fostering
  • Adoption
  • Terrible twos
  • Troublesome threes
  • Grand parents
  • Schooling
  • Teenagers
  • Young adults

If you had good enough parenting on both sides around you as you were growing up, you will often look to those parental relationships to find the way forward. However, there will be different agendas coming into the parenting; some good, some not so good. There is no right or wrong here, you just need to decide on your way of parenting and agree to it together as your children reach different stages of development.

As well as bringing us joy, children can pose a challenge which can leave parents feeling exhausted, exasperated and desperate. Parenting can lead to feelings of isolation and can have a profound effect on your relationship with your partner.

Communicating between you as parents about your children should be done in private. NEVER disagree with a parenting decision in front of your children until they reach an age and stage in life when they have a part in the decision-making process. There is no doubt you will disagree at times on your parenting style, but try not to argue and use raised voices as often your children will hear you, even when you are sure they are not listening. Think about a time you heard raised voices, insults or anger between your parents when you were supposedly asleep.

Our Nightingale counsellor assigned to you will also be a parent. They will understand the challenges and difficulties around parenting, and together you will look at designing a parenting programme to enable your children to grow and flourish, and for you to get back to parenting more effectively. As a united front, you make the rules and stick to them. Third party advice and gathering information is good but ultimately you decide together how to proceed. If grandparents are involved with your children and your parenting, please be aware that they sometimes can create a point of conflict in your relationship and parenting. If this is happening, bring it up in counselling sooner rather than later.

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I was referred into Mhairi at a very low point in my life. I was overwhelmed, anxious, worried and stressed. My problems seemed insurmountable. Following my sessions with Mhairi I have completely changed how I deal with the same situations that brought me to counselling. How I react and understanding why I react was enlightening, enriching and by far the best thing I have done for myself and my family. Mhairi is down to earth, funny, easy to talk to and a true profession.