Nightingale Marriage Counselling Children And Step Families

Children / Step Families

The step-parent – best for you to be an ally to your stepchildren, not a parent. Sound like a battleground? Believe me, it can be.

Stepfamilies and how to survive them takes time, patience, understanding and compromise. If these relationships hit an issue, they are usually highly charged situations with a heightened state of emotion which brings feelings that often take you by surprise.

If you are willing to put in the work, then the situation can get easier.

If you have come together as a newly formed couple after a separation, divorce or bereavement, and bring children into your relationship, you can experience a roller coaster of emotions. It may be a bumpy ride! Whether you are the parent or step-parent, raising children in a blended family can be hard work. We see parents being manipulated and worn down but also being too harsh and defensive. If you are struggling with how your partner is parenting, or if you want to find a way of being a stronger team in a newly formed family, couple counselling can really help to smooth the transition.

  • Different opinions on parenting
  • Child misbehaving and acting out
  • Children manipulating the birth parent
  • Rude behaviour towards the stepparent
  • Ex partners with loose boundaries
  • Anger, frustration and disappointment

Do not criticise the stepchild or the parent

Take it slow; very, very small steps is the only way to build the foundation on which the relationship can grow. Friendship is the first relationship you are looking to achieve with a child. When a third party is introduced to a new couple relationship often the child has to deal with the disappointment that the birth parents are not getting back together for whatever reason. You are often seen as the interloper intruder, even the enemy. What we need you to be, is an ally. Sounds like a battle ground? Believe me, it can be.

The intervention of couple counselling here will really help you understand the family dynamics at play and allow you to plan your way forward with the children. There are many reasons why the couple relationship can be compromised in a stepfamily situation. Below are a few.

Couple counselling will help you to understand the family dynamic. It will also help you define your role and the relationship you want with a stepchild or young adult moving forward. Introduction of very firm boundaries need to be agreed upon and the plan of action on how you move forward also needs to be agreed. There’s no point in arguing about the situation as there is no right or wrong here, just new circumstances to understand and accept. Just because you love the child’s Mum or Dad, it is not a pre-requisite that you will love each other’s children. Or that your children will love your new partner.

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Please read our testimonials many couples have been where you are today, and these testimonials let’s you see where they are now. So, let’s get to work and get those lines of communication open.

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I used to think counselling was valuable for other people, but not something I would ever need. Five years into my second marriage, my husband and I were struggling with our relationship and the challenges of stepchildren. Luckily for us, our eventual frustration led us to Florence. From that first meeting, I felt a sense of confidence in her and in the process of counselling. Through Florence, we learnt to listen to each other, be honest about ourselves and find compromises. It’s hard to talk honestly about difficult feelings, but Florence always made it feel safe. I enjoyed her sense of humour and her direct, no messing approach. I have learnt so much from Florence about relationships, parenting and myself. I will always be grateful for her insight, wisdom and kindness – for me, it has been life-changing.