Unpleasant negative feelings emerge in response to situations of conflict. When couples are in conflict it is not only destructive to them personally, but it can be unpleasant for others around them, especially if there are children involved.
Divorce maybe decided if conflict cannot be resolved, for others there’s no conflict, just a feeling they are no longer in love with their partner and want to be separated. If a third party is involved there can be anger, resentment and pain. No matter what the issue is if divorce or separation is inevitable, finding a way forward and remain amicable, is always the best way to progress, for everyone involved.
Easier said than done I expect you are thinking, however if can be done.
If there are children involved, you will probably be considering co-parenting, and the reality is that you will have to adopt a different relationship as parents to your children - You may have separated from each other, however, generally neither parent wants to separate from their children.
|• How, what and when do we tell the children||• Ensure you agree how and when you communicate about your children|
|• Decide a set of boundaries agreed by both parties||• Third party contact and their role|
|• Encourage harmony to ease the transition||• Bringing the couple relationship to an end|
|• Devise a plan of action as you move forward separately|
Children involved with separating parents are entitled to parents who can communicate sensibly without conflict, have their best interests at heart and feel no confusion or anguish about where they live and how much time they spend with each parent, until they are at an age when they can make their own decisions.
Every parent works towards the same goal - to help nurture a child into a balanced young adult, ready and equipped to take on the challenges of living and thriving in our complex modern world. Understanding your own legacy goes a long way to making a better one for our children.
Nightingale couple counsellors often work with couples who want to separate. Divorce or separation counselling offers a chance to examine the relationship with less pressure on how to ‘fix’ it. The work is offered by experienced Nightingale couple counsellors only, although this work differs from couple counselling. The process may give the couple a chance to ensure the negative feeling around divorce and separation are expressed and a plan of action designed to help to bring the relationship to a close with dignity and without resentment.
We aim to ensure that every client feels safe in the knowledge that they have found a professional couple counselling organisation that understands the challenges and concerns they face when they decide to seek assistance to resolve relationships issues. When you contact Nightingale we will respond immediately to all enquiries and can guarantee an appointment within 48 hours. Contact us on 0141 353 9373, Email us or complete our online Enquiry Form.
"By the time we arrived at Nightingale it felt as though it was already too late. We could barely speak to each other without anger or tears and there seemed to be no common ground. Sessions with Florence gave us space and a safe place to talk. Slowly and sensitively she helped us explore how we had reached this point and to think about how we might move forward. We developed a new understanding of what had led to our growing apart and empathy for each other’s feelings. In the end we decided not to stay together, but we have become strong partners and have stayed good terms throughout the separation, mainly because all the hate and hurt had already been dealt with. This has helped our children; our family and our friends come to terms with the situation, and could see that there was a maturity about the way we were able to deal with each other. Personally I am amazed at how much we have both grown through the process and all because we now both feel we have been listened to and understood. Thank you Florence."
Our Counselling Fees:
Individual Sessions £60
Couple Sessions £70
Florence Gray, Our Senior Counselling Consultant, carries her own fee structure. Her fees will be discussed on your initial Assessment Session.